Charles E. Newbold, Jr.
If we do not provide the expected support for the Thing and its programs, whether we want to or not, whether we are called to serve in a certain capacity or not, we are made to feel guilty. Have you ever felt guilty for missing a function of the church? Those little shame-based voices in your head whisper “naughty, naughty.” “It was my fault the program failed. I didn’t give enough of my time and money to it.” You can know by those feelings of guilt that you are serving a Thing and not the Master.
When we are asked by leadership in the church to make a commitment to the church, we are actually being asked to make a commitment to the Thing. Our loyalty is measured by how well we serve this Thing. We are thought to be slothful Christians if we do not support it; and if we do not even attend a local church, we are assumed to be backsliders.
On the other hand, when we “do” church, we have expectations that it ought to be a certain way. It has to work according to our expectations, or we will feel like it has failed.
If the Thing has to work a certain way before it is successful, then those who support it will be pressured into performing in such a way as to make it a success. If it is not a success, someone is to blame. It is either the people’s fault, the pastor’s fault, the choir director’s fault, or the church board’s fault.
What if you and I have different expectations about how a church should work? We will have conflict. There will always be conflict in the church because there will always be expectations in conflict. These are man’s expectations, not God’s.